Get a game plan for your marriage
Benjamin Franklin once said that “If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail.” Becoming intentional with goals in your relationship is a lot like strategizing for the Super Bowl, so get a game plan!
Success requires creating a playbook, utilizing each team member in their areas of expertise, knowing your opponent and having a winning attitude. It’s time to think like a team!
Start with a Good Offense. Know what makes your spouse feel loved and respected. This means intentional communication. Listen, then act on what you’ve discovered. Those little things you say, give or do can make the difference in getting the “first down” every time!
Create an Effective Defense. Know your opponent! Circumstances with work, finances, children, etc. are frustrating. Target the real enemy – address the problem. Recognizing stressors and knowing your teammate’s strengths and weaknesses will keep the team working together instead of against each other.
Cherish your Fans! There’s nothing like the “home team advantage” with a huge crowd cheering you on. Surround yourself with like-minded people who encourage and counsel wisely, not those who speak negativity and defeat.
Practice, Practice, Practice! Even the best quarterback doesn’t get it right every time. Keep working at it and be forgiving. Let go of yesterday’s “fumbles” and stay focused on the game in front of you. And remember to celebrate the small victories! Those small gains of just a few yards can add up to spectacular “touchdowns!”
Hannah Comeaux is a licensed professional counselor and marriage and family therapist. Her passion is helping others cultivate more meaningful relationships.